how to be your own master

hey again. i know it sounds dangerously like one of those self help essays where the writer is trying hard to convince his/her own psyche of the hypothetical notions he / she is presenting but fact of the matter is , its not . i merely want to present my own catch 22 .
From the get go we are involuntarily swerved into directions of other persons choice . it is a fact that learning is swifter when experiences of superior beings( to be noted a highly subjective opinion) for instance our parents ,uncles, aunts ,grand parents, teachers ,village wise woman etc are available for reference. The question is, is it mandatory to follow their "virtuous path"unerringly ? or can we be allowed to transgress and select our own course ? The answer : beggars aren't choosers . take what you can . life only comes once so live it to the fullest . fear only fear itself ,go figure .
Now this apparent mumbo jumbo has the appearance of great resilience but does it fare well to real live tests. my point is we need to be guided to a certain extent . an allowance of making your own mistakes should be in the bargain . you see it rarely happens . you have to take the reins in your hands in order to maintain your own perspective or in some cases building your perspective
Hahhahhahahaha yep very much like self help books i can't help it !!!! this dilemma has plagued me forever. no , my parents have been extremely liberal with my brought up but the situation all around was and is atrocious. every one is inadvertently dependent on another for even the most primitive of decisions like what clothes to wear? what what to eat ?(and i don't mean religious specifications ) who to like or fall in love with ? what to specialize in studies? and so on and so forth .we are dictated by a number of factors in society . religion being one, then tradition of that particular culture also ancestral norms ad principals ,all of which determine our personalities.
My query is that these influences are by no means negative but why has the freedom of choice tried to be suppressed to the verge of absolute extinction ? why is there an inherent need to produce robots rather than self keeping individuals who could bring about diversity and a broader spectrum of advancement to our own interests ? it is an absolute enigma to me.
part one of my thirst for the truth ends here catch you later please feel free to relate your thoughts. till then be yourself.